There’s a strange kind of clarity that comes from sweating through your clothes on a July afternoon in Kathmandu. It’s monsoon season.
I’ve been in Nepal’s capital for a few days now. Long enough for me to switch from my Birkenstocks to my Nike Cortezes as I navigate through the grime of the city, long enough to stop flinching when motorbikes barrel past me in alleys. I’m used to it from living in Cairo and Saigon, but, after living in slow-paced Bhutan for the past year, it took about two days to remember, that we’re all working together. Just keep moving, the bikes will go around you. Be confident. Long enough to remember that I didn’t come here to be a tourist.
Because there is a difference.
A tourist arrives with a checklist.
They come for the temples, the rooftop views, the dal bhat on a thali set that looks good on Instagram. They come to “see.” And there’s nothing wrong with that. Everyone starts there.
But a traveler stays long enough to be changed.
You start to recognize the same faces—fruit vendors, shop clerks. You sit in a café just long enough to feel the day change around you.
The difference is not how far you go or how many countries you tick off. It’s in how close you let the place get.
In Kathmandu, I’ve been letting it get close. Started with the phrases: Namaste! (can’t go wrong with that when greeting someone), “Good morning!” – शुभ बिहानी Śubha bihānī (shooba beehani), “Thank you” – धन्यवाद Dhan’yavāda (don ya vod), “Have a good day” – (shooba deen)
My first week is spent wandering with no destination. Just walking—past courtyards, past street art, lots of hidden gems that a ‘normal’ eye wouldn’t notice.
Other days I sit. I watch. I wait. I let the city lead instead of me trying to conquer it. That’s the traveler’s lesson: you stop trying to do the place, and you start letting it be. The best way.
And it’s not always beautiful. Kathmandu is messy. Chaotic. Gorgeous in an unruly way. There are power cuts and puddles.
I think that’s the point.
Tourists observe. Travelers dissolve.
So for this summer, I’m letting myself dissolve a little—into the noise, the dust, the color, the chaos. I’m not chasing experiences to collect; I’m letting them collect me.
And when I leave, I won’t remember every temple. But I’ll remember the guy that makes me breakfast and brings me delicious coffee every morning. His short gray ponytail, his contagious smile that activates the twinkle in his eyes. The woman who gives me free bananas after a long conversation in broken Nepali, comprised of much laughter. The sound of the rain on corrugated tin and tree leaves. I love a good monsoon.
I came for a season. I’m staying for something more.
—jackie.
